thank you for writing this post. these subjects are sometimes difficult to talk about, particularly for us computer types who like things to be properly specified. affairs of the human heart rarely are, but peering through the mist together, collectively, and with one’s other half can help us see what is there.
– luke 2021-09-14 06:13 UTC
Yes, indeed. I also appreciate reading diverse perspectives.
I sometimes feel that I might have benefited from talking to people half way between me and my parents, or maybe a more talking and listening culture for me and my parents. So that’s my contribution: approaching fifty, I speak with the benefit of hindsight. 😀
– Alex 2021-09-14 16:56 UTC
I found your post and it really ressonated with me. It made me reflect on my life, and the things I could to live it to its fullest — how can I be happier, how can I be a better friend and better partner? Thank you so much for writing it.
– Beto Dealmeida 2021-09-14 18:57 UTC
Thanks for sharing. You gather here a lot of what I feel during introspection. In my own experience I worry about “time alone together” being in effect too much time alone.
– anonyth 2021-09-19 05:28 UTC
Yeah, we need both time alone together, and quality time together. Generally speaking, I’d say worrying about is a good sign. It’s a sign that you care. And talking about it often helps. Perhaps your partner will say, “Hell no! I love this. What gave you this idea, have you been taking relationship advice from the Internet again?” Then you can both laugh and keep on doing the things you do. Or perhaps your partner will say, “Hum, yeah, maybe. I don’t know. I do sometimes feel like we’re both living alone together, each in their bubble.” And then you can make plans to set aside time for a trip, a concert, a hike, a game, some activity you both enjoy, give yourself the opportunity to spend quality time together.
– Alex 2021-09-19 10:53 UTC